By Maria-Cristina Ionita
Let’s all celebrate the joy of missing out!
Drinks with friends, assignments due, societies to join, events to attend, work, relationships etc. As a student, I believe I have so many opportunities but such little time. Some might argue that the key to this problem is successful time management, but let’s not forget that we are only humans and we are not in control of everything, no matter how much we may try. Remember that change in deadline? Or that birthday party which you completely forgot about? Or that friend that needed help to get through his problems?
FOMO (standing for the ‘fear of missing out’) is a serious issue for students today, especially with social media showing everything that we are “missing out” on. It leaves us feeling the undeniable pressure to constantly be doing something, especially in our free time. I see myself involved in so many things: running a society, attending different events, going to class, working 4 days per week and writing my assignments, all at the same time! And I still feel like I am missing out on chances to network, to improve my personal and professional skills, to change the world a little bit, and to make sure I do not waste any second as a student at ARU. I have been talking to many students and they feel the same way: we are afraid of missing out on the opportunities of our lifetimes! Many of us came to study here with the hope that we can have better resources compared to our home countries, but we are stressing so much over striving for more that we can forget to enjoy a cup of coffee with a friend in the afternoon or to read a book that we like.
But now I ask you: Why aren’t we celebrating the JOMO (the ‘joy of missing out’)?
The main way that I deal with FOMO is to remind myself that I am doing my best and that I need to hold myself accountable for my physical and mental health. I love being around people and engaging in different activities with other students, but I also know the importance of giving myself breaks and time alone to enjoy my own company. I praise myself every time I stop grabbing a convenient takeaway on-the-go and instead choose to enjoy a lovely chai latte in, listening to Christmas Carols and catching up with my family from back home. Choose to be happy, not just busy. At the end of the day, you should feel accomplished and blessed, not exhausted and anxious. It is the small things that can help you, but if you feel like you need help, do not be afraid to seek it.
In order to give our best, I believe that we need to be in our best condition, so do not lose yourself in the process of becoming your best self.